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Pleasure can bring its own pain though. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. The pain of absence is as a direct result of the cessation of pleasure. Could not change be brought about by this pain, caused through pleasure being experienced in the first instance?
I can see several avenues to change by this agent, that may be as radical as change brought about through pain alone.
Catchya later
A child's perception of a parent leaving is typically traumatic at first as they have to adjust their understanding that the parent is in fact coming back. As a pattern develops, the child matures in their understanding that when a parent leaves, they are indeed coming back. When you hear people reference separation anxiety, this would be an example of how a child is forced to rationalize this, and it can appear very traumatic.
Speaking from first hand experience, when I would deploy in the Marine Corps, I might be gone for a week or a month. Upon my return, my wife and I were happy to see each other. My absence from my wife and my wife from me certainly made our hearts long for one another. But this is a more mature version of pleasure and pain, and the way in which we cope with the pain of absence is having what I term as perspective (or understanding) that the loved one is coming back.
I do not know if I explained this very eloquently, but hope this helps explain my perspective.
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